Monday, September 7, 2009

Beware My Love

We all want our loved ones to be happy, healthy and wise. Typically, we overlook the bad and magnify the good; we forgive and defend them passionately. This is a good love.

But what happens when a loved one becomes devoted to a false religion, life style or belief system and refuses to be persuaded about their error?

Sometimes we come to conclusions…or we rationalize -

“Well, I believe that God is love. There is no way that God’s going to send them to hell...I just don’t believe that!"

"Everyone always thinks they’re right and that their way is the only way!”

Suddenly our love for the person manifests by defending their error.
We can’t accept or tolerate the adverse consequences indicated by the choices they’ve made. It’s too painful. This is a bad love.

It seems to me that this rationale not only validates and condones their error but is also an insidious mar upon our own consciences; a subtle wedge of deception. If not careful we will find ourselves in the grasp of a false belief system too.

A shift from biblical truths for the sake of our loved ones does nothing to save them. In a real sense, it’s checkmate for the devil. We’ve become deceived ourselves and rendered ineffective witnesses of truth in the loved ones life. We’re no longer full of faith and hope. We’re no longer praying for the person’s salvation!

Instead, we become full of defensive pride, fear and even resentment for anyone who would be so philosophically and mystically deprived as to suggest that there is but one narrow way to God and heaven. We have declared the loved one and ourselves acceptable.

God Word says –

John 3:16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.

John 14:6 Jesus said to him, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.

If we, as believers surrender and exchange the truth for a lie then perhaps our neighbors will. After all, they have loved ones too. Over time, this ‘bad love’ becomes a vortex for the whole of society. Everyone is right in their own eyes, truth is suppressed, churches are politically correct, governments oppress and on it goes.

I’m not suggesting that we harden our hearts and shun our misled loved ones. Au contraire! We are to love them even more by holding fast to the truth we know, praying and being good examples. Let the Holy Spirit lead us.

Gal 5:22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law.

Remember the old adage… “if you can’t beat them join them?” Well, we’re not trying to beat them. We are trying to win them! Selah

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  1. I hear people say, "She's saved. She just doesn't practice it right now." This while the "she" in question practices addictions and otherwise doesn't follow God's plan. Maybe "she" follows a false church. We need to be honest with ourselves in order to offer up the right prayers. People who love the Lord live for the Biblical Christ.

  2. Pat - As believers, I know we are all b-e-i-n-g sanctified. We all make mistakes and sometimes big ones. BUT, we are not to continue in sin.

    Rom 6:1 What shall we say then? Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound?
    Rom 6:2 Certainly not! How shall we who died to sin live any longer in it?

    It is so dangerous to know the truth and continue to feign ignorance of it.

    God is the judge - His word has been put plainly before us. Unfortunately, there are so many folks who are not being made to smell the smoke of the flames they stand so close to. We need revival in our churches and in our own hearts!! Often, people will recognize the truth if only, in love, someone will tell them!

    Thank you so much for commenting today - I appreciate your input! Blessings galore :-)

  3. Yes Lorrie, the Bible calls for alertness! let us not slumber or slide away!
    I realize we cannot change people, only God can do that, but we ought to be living examples of a godly life!
    Good post!

  4. Hey Marja! Thanks for coming over and for leaving a word :-)

  5. This is a hard circumstance not just because of lost loved ones but because of a lost world - i'm holding fast to the truth that God is in control and not me.

  6. sojourner - I am so glad that HE is the judge :-) Thanks for coming over... Blessings!

  7. What a thought provoking post. My dad recently became an atheist after living as a Christian for over 40 years. It is so sad to see someone who you love go through doubt.

    Stupid thing is... my dad spoke with his pastor and the pastor told him that if he was to die today that he believes he would still be saved!

    I can't believe that! Where is the repentance of sin! The first sign of genuiune revival is repentance. It is outlined right throughout the bible. Without repentance of sin there can be no forgiveness!

    So sad.


  8. Vee - Praying that your dad returns to the truth... that the Holy Spirit will pound on the door of his heart :-)
    Blessings to you.

  9. You kinda missing one of the biggest reasons people are only "almost Christian's" (Acts 26:28). The bit they are missing is following God's law which is suppose to be written in their hearts (Jer 31:33, Rom 2:15). This law consists of Ten Commandments of God but they rather follow rules of man (Mat 15:9). #4 is broken most everywhere. They will be the ones who are tossed out!! (Mat 22:11-14) They will be missing the so important garments. (Rev 19:8, 2Co 5:3, Rev 3:17)

  10. Austin - thanks for your input.

    #4 is: 'Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy.'

    I pray that no one is "tossed out". My hope is that we will be salt and light to a lost world and that we will be strong and not enabling. The work begins with grace and love.

    Blessings to you.

  11. A truly provoking set of thoughts. I am a born again Christian who fell away from catholicism (thankyou God) and became a dabbler. Christ called me from my sin 10 years ago and I struggle with my sin everyday. We all have loved ones who may have fallen away, but in truth they may never have been of "The Way". My parents were bought up catholics and they did the same to thier children in ignorance, but that is no excuse. Unfortunatley the truth is hard. Those who die in sin are dead in sin. No second chances. Those who follow ignorantly a faith that is in clear contradiction to scripture, will be denied, even when they honestly claim they followed "a christ". It is our duty to witness to all who would deny Christ, as they will be damned to an eternity in hell. To witness is to Love. One final point to address a comment about a pastor claiming that once saved allways saved. (ref to the father who has become an athiest). All of us need to keep in mind that those who are not of Christ have no choice in thier life but to sin. Once you accept Christ you gain choice. A Christian who contnues to sin is not automatically saved. They ignore the choice they were given and "fall" away and as Revelation states.. many will fall away and they will not be raptured, and if they die in that state then they have made the choice for satan. I know that sounds harsh but its simply a fact. Yours in Christ, Paul

  12. Paul - My focus with this post was primarily about encouraging believers not to abandon the truth they know - no matter what. We must love the unsaved or mislead person but hate the error.
    It is hard for me to believe that once someone is born (again) that they can be un-born. Perhaps it is as you say... that someone who absolutely turns their back on Christ once they have been saved were not saved to begin with. I will leave that judgement to God.
    Still, saying that.. we are to be salt and light to a dark world and be bold, without excuse.
    Thanks for coming over and commenting. Enjoyed it very much!